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Sunday, September 30, 2012

Faith in a Del Monte Jar

This morning as we prepared to leave for church, my husband handed me a small jar and asked me if I would mind carrying it in my purse for him.  This was a little unusual.

Granted, we each have slightly different routines for preparing to attend separate churches on Sunday mornings; and this is understandable in light of the fact that he is a life-long Catholic and I am a died-in-the-wool Protestant.  

For example, I almost always have a cup of tea and a bowl of cereal before leaving for church, as I don't want to listen to my stomach growl during the sermon, much less inflict that on anyone sitting near enough to overhear the gastro-gurglings when I have not eaten in over twelve hours.

The *LOC on the other hand, does not eat before attending Mass on Sunday mornings due to his convictions about not eating prior to receiving the Eucharist.  It is an old-fashioned stance that the Catholic church no longer insists upon, from what I understand, but he has followed this practice his whole life and does not intend to change at this late date.  

Tomato, tomahto - potato, potahto.....

Despite our different church backgrounds, I occasionally attend services with him as I enjoy going to church together.  Thus, after nearly a quarter of a century of being married to a practicing Catholic, I was fairly certain that taking an empty Del Monte jar to church was not standard practice.

And then I remembered ...

Several months ago, the *LOC was diagnosed with skin cancer.  He has had several relatively harmless growths removed from his face, but there is one on his arm that is deeper and more serious.  His dermatologist has been treating it with what he casually called "chemo-cream" after the biopsy confirmed it was basil cell carcinoma.  

Thankfully, it is not melanoma, the much more serious form of skin cancer; but it is not anything to play around with either. If the chemo-cream does not do the job, he will have to have some minor surgery near the end of the year.

He has followed the doctor's instructions to the letter. But he has also prayed for healing and he puts "holy-water" on it when he prays.  He does this privately and with no fuss; but he is consistent about it.  Thus, he had used up his small supply of holy-water and needed to refill his supply from the fountain at his church.  He decided to use a clean Del Monte jar to carry it home.

I smiled to myself as I realized the significance of the jar in my purse.  Not because I dismiss his prayer practice, but because it is another example of how similar, and yet how different, our faith practices can be.

In my church background we also practice prayer for healing, but we do so accompanied with anointing oil.  Some Christians I have known keep a small bottle of "anointing oil" in their home, to accompany such prayers.  

The skeptic would scoff at both:  holy water, anointing oil ... tomato-tomahto ...
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As I sat in the pew this morning and listened to their Polish priest give his quiet homily, in his heavily accented English, on living the Christian faith in a simple but practical manner, I heard another small sound nearby.

The whisper quiet whoosh-whisp, whoosh-whisp had first captured my attention during silent prayer.  I looked around to identify the sound and realized that not only one, but two, elderly worshippers nearby had brought their oxygen apparatus with them, and the whisps of sound I heard coming from their direction was their oxygen pumps delivering breathing assistance to them.  They obviously saw no contradiction in using whatever medical help is available to them, accompanied by the help their faith offers them.  Neither do I.

Atheists would declare our holy-water and/or our anointing oil equally useless as a recovery tool; of course, they would also denounce prayer as a delusion.  

Fair enough. They have a right to their opinion.  We each have choices to make about how to conduct our lives and whether to accept the gift of faith, and if so, how to practice that faith.

For myself, I want to become better acquainted with the One who originated the "breath of life."  He sustains my faith through whatever life throws at me.  And He continually teaches me to respect both my own traditions and those of other Christian believers.

I believe in being practical in facing life's challenges, while practicing a faith that sometimes defies all earthly logic  Sometimes faith comes in a Del Monte jar.  Sometimes it comes accompanied by an oxygen tank. Sometimes it is accompanied by an awareness of how fragile we all are.  And that is okay too.
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Until next time ... Marsha
(*Lovable Old Coot)

11 comments:

  1. Oh, Marsha, what a wonderful post this is! I love the way you write, and you always leave us with such wonderful lessons. I will add your husband to my prayer list~

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    1. Shelly - Thank you so much. I miss your posts with all their gentle insights and amazing stories. Hope you are doing well. And thank you, too, for praying for David. (aka The LOC)

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    2. I still have a few more posts up my sleeve before I take a little break. I hit publish on that post when I meant to hit save! Thank you for being such a good friend!

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  2. It is a shame all the world can't be as tolerant of all our differences as you two are.

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    1. Diane,
      Honestly, being married to the LOC has taught me more about tolerance than I would have thought possible. :)

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  3. This post is my devotional for today. You are such an instrument of God's love.

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    1. Pat - You always touch my heart. Blessings to you today.

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  4. This made me smile. Aren't we glad that God just wants us to pray, and He doesn't judge how we do it... the invitation is to all and it says 'Come to me', and we do, with jars, oxygen or just a heavy heart or a joyful thanks, and He takes all of them! Precious blog!

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    1. Sonja,
      Thankfully, he does indeed say "Come" to one and all. Hope you have a fine day.

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  5. I love this. Many marriages argue and fight about "what church to attend" until no one goes anywhere anymore. How wonderful that you and your love worked out a great system that works for you. It reminds me of the saying, "It never was about you and them. It's about you and HIM." ((hugs))

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  6. This was beautiful. Such tender understanding in your love for each other and respect for faith.

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